Two Ways to Defuse
Relational Conflict Chip Ingram
Relationships matter to God . We don ’ t just choose peace for our own sakes , although we greatly benefit from doing so . We choose peace because God seeks reconciliation with everyone , and we are being conformed to His image . It ’ s a reflection of His nature . So resolving conflict has a lot to do with following Him well .
Reconciliation isn ’ t easy when we think we know how the other person is going to respond . We often adopt a “ why try ?” attitude . But we try for the same reasons Paul urged Euodia and Syntyche to resolve their differences and because God says to make every effort . So if your network of relationships is ruptured , especially in a relationship with a family member or other member of the body of Christ , seek peace as diligently as you can . Be very intentional and persistent in following these steps toward restoration .
1 . Resolve to stop procrastinating . Make a commitment to address the problem . Whichever relationship first came to mind when we started this chapter , think of a specific step you can take toward reconciliation . Maybe it begins with a conversation , an appointment with a counselor , or even a prayer for God to help you as you walk this out . Whatever moves you in that direction , be decisive about it and commit to it .
Why is it so important to stop procrastinating ? Because a lack of peace in your relationships adds stress to your life and affects your physical and emotional health . You may not feel it happening — sometimes the stress is
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