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keep the relationship fresh. Don’t just be with
your mate, chillin’ in the bed, watching movies.
What happened to the pursuit? What happened
to showing interest? Finding out more about
each other? Connecting? Intentional dates
between a married couple are a time for you
to talk about things you might not talk about
while you’re busy taking care of business in your
everyday lives.
Excerpted from Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating,
Marriage, and Sex. Copyright © 2020 by Michael Todd. Used
by permission of WaterBrook, an imprint of Penguin Random
House LLC.
But there’s more. The thing about married dates
that’s different from single dates is, it’s okay if
they end up in bed. In fact, that’s the best kind
of married dates. You should be having a lot of
those!
You’ll keep changing as you grow older. So will
your mate. You’ll have new dreams and goals. So
will your mate. You chose this mate because you
believed he or she would be a godly support, and
both of you need a marriage that continues to
be mutually supportive, with or without kids in
the house. So, keep going through the process.
Work on your singleness, and date the one you
love throughout your marriage.
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Michael Todd is the lead pastor of Transformation Church in Tulsa,
Oklahoma. His driving passion is re-presenting God to the lost and
found for transformation in Christ. Michael speaks at a variety of
influential churches, events, and conferences each year, including
Elevation Church, C3 Conference, Lakewood Church, VOUS Conference,
Relentless Church, XO Conference, and many others.
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