Let’s Talk — Cindy Miller
When
Silence
Is Not
Golden
Question: My husband and I have
been married for ten years. We don’t
argue or fight. We talk about the
weather, our kids, and work; but we
avoid things that matter or things
that cause conflict. We are complete
opposites and our beliefs, values, and
preferences seem to always collide.
We both hate conflict but decisions
are looming on the horizon and I am
afraid of what will happen when we
are forced to face our differences.
Answer: We know Scripture teaches, “How can two walk together, unless
they are agreed?” (Amos 3:3, NKJV); but how can couples agree if they are
unable to talk about their most important decisions in life? For conflict
avoidant couples, stalled in silence, the first goal is not to solve the problem
but simply to start talking again—talking in a way that inspires more
conversations. While one or two conversations may not change the outcome,
it certainly puts you both in a position to listen and share, breaking you free
from the isolation of silence.
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