one-on-one time with your child . This conveys to them that they are valuable and worth your time and individual attention . This also creates unique opportunities for you or your child to initiate meaningful conversations that would not happen otherwise .
BE SUPPORTIVE : Offer encouragement and support in their endeavors . Show them that you believe in their abilities and are there to help them navigate challenges . It isn ’ t enough to simply say , “ You can do anything you set your mind to .” Truly showing that you believe in them will mean allowing them to take certain , age-appropriate risks and sometimes failing or succeeding . When we are too quick to set excessive limits or rescue our child from the consequences of their choices , they soon learn they are not as capable as you say they are and that they cannot take risks without you saving them when it all goes wrong .
BE RESPECTFUL : Avoid belittling or dismissing their feelings and opinions . The pressures of life and juggling responsibilities can often leave us feeling exhausted and stressed . This can lead to speaking with a curt tone to children , especially when their timing or attitude is not welcomed at the moment . When we allow ourselves to speak with a dismissive or harsh tone , it conveys a sense of disrespect and can leave your child feeling devalued . Treat your child with respect and expect the same in return . This is a valuable boundary that teaches your child to respect themselves and others .
Larry Deavers is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker & Executive Director of Family Counseling Service of West Alabama . www . kidslifemagazine . com
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