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Happiness depends , as Nature shows , less on exterior things than most suppose .,,
William Cowper
Men and Shoes Won ’ t Make You Happy
by Veronica Mengana
What do women really want ? The key to real happiness is at our fingertips
Are you happy ? Yes , I am talking to you . Today , I want to speak to you woman to woman , openly and candidly . I want you to really think about it . Are you truly happy ? If you are honest with yourself , your response will likely be “ no .” Maybe you ’ ve achieved many of your life goals : a husband , children , an exciting career , financial independence , and a healthy lifestyle ; or maybe not , but irrespective of this , many women the world over are asking themselves , “ What happened to me ?” One recent study of American women , called “ Women less happy after 40 years of feminism ,” found that we are in fact less happy today than we were thirty years ago despite all sorts of modern advancements ( Times Online ).
Over the last few decades , we seem to have achieved everything we thought we wanted . We wanted to be more independent , so in came women ’ s rights and all sorts of opportunities for education and employment . Yet , we are becoming more and more disillusioned in this area of life . Another example is our unrealistic expectations of men . We often look at men as a source of our happiness , but most of the time we don ’ t find that men fit our criteria , and even if we do , we become disappointed over time .
Ok , maybe men and exciting careers don ’ t make us happy , but shopping most certainly will ! However , as most of us know by now , consumerism is a neverending loop , and we have it turned on “ high ,” bringing ourselves and those around us to complete exhaustion . So , why is it that we still are not feeling happy ? Could it be that we were looking for satisfaction in all the wrong places ?
At some point , we started to understand that perhaps we couldn ’ t find happiness externally in our husbands , careers , or “ things .” Our internal instinct instigated a search for “ something more ,” some greater purpose to life . So we turned our attention to all sorts of spiritual courses , psychologists , psychics , self-help books , and yoga memberships . After many failed attempts , however , we found that we still had a gaping hole in our hearts screaming out for true fulfillment . Is this you ?
What are we Searching For ? What if I were to tell you that everything that ’ s happened so far was predetermined in order to lead you right here : this place where you ’ ve exhausted yourself trying to find fulfillment only to realize that you are still not happy . What if I were to also tell you that a woman ’ s fulfillment does not lie in shoes , clothes , cosmetics , holidays , men , or meditation ; and that all these things will never bring the spiritual fulfillment that a woman needs most of all ?
In our times , we are beginning to see that a woman can only truly be happy when she is in direct contact with a higher force . Call it Nature or the Creator , but it ’ s something we ’ ve distanced ourselves from and are desperately seeking . Even with all our modern advancements and the achievement of all our goals , we still have an ever present internal feeling of being unfulfilled . This feeling of lack is inherent in every woman because a woman ’ s spiritual root is “ an absolute desire to receive ,” or as Kabbalah explains , the vessel which the Creator created in order to fulfill it with delight . It is our very nature to feel lack , because without a lack , there is nothing to fulfill . Everything that was ever created was for the sole purpose of bringing us , women ( the universal will to receive ), pleasure .
Our desire for fulfillment is what has compelled all human development from the earliest societies until today . However , because our modern , collective ego , our desire for pleasure , has grown so large , the fulfillments of the past no longer do anything for us . Today , we need spiritual fulfillment or nothing else .
Finding Real Fulfillment Every time we try to find fulfillment in any pleasure in this world , it is contact with the Upper Force , the Creator that we truly want . The whole purpose of all our development and all of our searching is to bring us to this point of exhaustion , when we simply can no longer try to fill ourselves with things from the outside world . It is at that exact moment that we have the opportunity to look inside ourselves , to begin a journey toward true , perfect , and eternal fulfillment .
The wisdom of Kabbalah is a practical method that can show a woman how to reconnect with her spiritual root in a conscious and proactive way . It can show us how to find eternal fulfillment by doing the one thing we have never tried : receiving pleasure in order to give pleasure to the One who created us . When we switch the intention of our desire from “ for ourselves ” to “ for the other ,” and when we find pleasure in the pleasure of someone else , the pleasure we feel increases exponentially and is everlasting . So , why not skip the mall , leave your husband or boyfriend in peace , put down the latest “ 10 Steps to Happiness ,” and take some time to explore your spiritual root , the female desire , through the wisdom of Kabbalah ?
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