Po-lyg-a-my / pe ' noun
Need vs . Greed Lady TJ
Polygamy involves marriage of more than one spouse . ( Wikipedia ) When a man is married to more than one wife at a time , it is called polygyny . When a woman is married to more than one husband at a time , it is called polyandry . If a marriage includes multiple husbands and wives , it can be called a group marriage ( Wikipedia )
Bigamy / big noun
In a controversial world , When a man is married to more than one woman he is called a king . a stud , or a hero . When a woman is married to more than one man , she is called a whore , a thot , a huzzy or a trick . And when several people are all involved together , it is called a damn shame . ( LadyTJ )
The lines have become so blurred in today ' s society around what is acceptable when it comes to the behavior of men and women that I often find myself asking the question , " Is this stuff really based on individual Needs or are they based on simple greed ." It never ceases to amaze me how there seem to be two totally different standards when it comes to men and women and the same behavior .
When a man goes out with five different women , he is considered just dating or maybe even just keeping his options open , but if a woman does the exact same thing she is instantly assumed to be a slut " someone loses , or someone with no respect or standards for themselves ." Even if she is not sleeping with anyone of them and is just simply dating she is still labeled . It appears that society is perfectly fine with men being sexually free to do whatever they choose , but a woman , on the other hand , must remain on her pedestal . As women we are not allowed to be what is considered overly sexually expressive and if we are it better be in a movie or a music video . Otherwise , you are labeled and have to wear the letter of shame .
Now , let ' s get into the real issue . Need vs . Greed . Why is it that many men seem to feel as though they need so many different women ? They often say things like , Man I need somebody that can burn in the kitchen ; I need another one that I can just chill with ; and the world famous quote , I need a good girl that I can take home to momma , and I need another girl , that ' s a freak ". Someone , please tell me , is this really needed ? Or is it simply greed ?
Are these the needs of a grown man , or just the desire of a little boy trying to play in a grown ups world ? Let ' s dissect the thought process from a woman ' s point of view . This woman , the one that is writing this controversial issue .
As a woman I look at it like this , If you are a man and you have more than one woman , that is certainly fine , as long as you are honest with everyone involved . I have no problem with anyone " doing you " no matter how far they spread themselves . Just so long as you keep it clean and classy . But what I do have a problem with is when a man gets into a relationship , ensures his mate that he is in a monogamous relationship and then runs around outside of that relationship . Using the excuse , " You know I can ' t help it , I " m a man ." No , you are not a man . You are a boy . A greedy little boy . Who has no concept of how to be a man , a man who is honest . He is man enough , or honest enough to tell his woman when he is ready to move on . He isn ' t afraid of the possibility of missing out on what he has to move on to what he wants . He respects himself enough to not compromise his integrity by being greedy due to the inability to settle for just one . He knows that a woman ' s heart is one of the most precious gifts that a man can receive and he needs it to elevate him to his next level in life vs . him feeling as though he needs many with the lack of understanding that those many will lead to self-destruction eventually . A boy and his greed will come into a woman ' s life and turn her world upside down and not even see the destruction until the damage is done . A boy will try his most damn to convince his partner that it is their fault that they are cheating on them . He will tell them that if they cooked better , that they would not have cheated , or if they gave better sex that they wouldn ' t have strayed . A boy will have his partner feeling like they are less than just so they can feel more than .
I guess what I am trying to say is that a real man understands that he needs a good partner . Not in the sense that they can ' t make it without them , but that they don ' t want to because they understand that life would be so much more successful with them by their side . They understand that a helpmate is just that . Someone that will help them to get to the next level . So , Now that you have had the chance to process some of my views on the subject of Need vs . Greed , let ' s talk about some of the views others have voiced . La Kisha from Brooklyn , New York says " Honestly I believe it ' s a need ..... I am easily bored but I love him something bad , so I am every woman , wigs , and outfits to match . Gotta Keep it spontaneous !"
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