Joy feelings magazine September 2019 Issue | Page 24

more gratifying experience, you’ll want to repeat your SFP to yourself
and to him.
It’s going to feel funny to you when you first say it. That’s a good sign,
actually. It means you’re uncomfortable because you’re making a
change.
Things have to change if they are going to improve.
Patricia was unwittingly using the law of attraction to create distance
in her marriage by repeating the mantra, “You never want to spend
time with me.”
She had focused on all the times her husband chose to do something
other than spend time with her, and there were plenty. She was hurt
and angry every time, and she couldn’t understand why he would be so
neglectful of his wife.
She was convinced she had married the wrong guy, that he was just
immature and selfish.
When we spoke about it, Patricia began to see that she may have been
contributing to the problem by affirming it with an SFP, and gathering
evidence for her belief—even though it wasn’t serving her. At all.