Joy feelings magazine September 2019 Issue | Page 24

more gratifying experience, you’ll want to repeat your SFP to yourself and to him. It’s going to feel funny to you when you first say it. That’s a good sign, actually. It means you’re uncomfortable because you’re making a change. Things have to change if they are going to improve. Patricia was unwittingly using the law of attraction to create distance in her marriage by repeating the mantra, “You never want to spend time with me.” She had focused on all the times her husband chose to do something other than spend time with her, and there were plenty. She was hurt and angry every time, and she couldn’t understand why he would be so neglectful of his wife. She was convinced she had married the wrong guy, that he was just immature and selfish. When we spoke about it, Patricia began to see that she may have been contributing to the problem by affirming it with an SFP, and gathering evidence for her belief—even though it wasn’t serving her. At all.