foreplay and LOTS of lubricating.
Here's a tip we learned: Before we begin, he
takes two syringes from an old Delfen foam
birth control kit and fills them with KY jelly
(from a tube). These syringes are clear plastic,
they come apart for cleaning and they are very
smooth.
Then I let him start by massaging my anus with
the really slippery KY that comes in the bottle
(not the tube stuff). He uses a latex glove
because no matter how clean I feel, it still
grosses me out for him to put his bare fingers
on (much less IN!) my anus. Once I'm relaxed
(and usually moaning a little) he starts putting
his fingers into me. When I tell him I'm ready,
he slides each syringe into my butt and "fills
me up" with KY Jelly.
By this time I'm ready, and he can put on his
rubber and lube up his cock with some of the
KY from the bottle. He also puts some more of
the bottle KY around my anus. I can't
emphasize enough that you have to use a LOT
of lube.
Once he's done all of this, his cock usually slips
right into me with no resistance or pain. Maybe
some couples need to work it in and out some,
but it goes right into me. If I feel any pain at
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