JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE July issue | Page 38

Unfortunately, most men will never know this kind of women, so when she does come, well let’s just say, have you ever heard of those stories of guys proposing in the first 3 months? There is a way to cultivate this aspect of yourself, and I believe you DO have this inside you… you just have to learn how to release it. : Not “Needing” But Wanting Many, many women fall into the trap of confusing liking, caring for and loving someone for being attached and needing that someone. Loving someone and being attached to someone are not the same thing. Let me help you to understand the difference. Loving someone is when you are thinking about the other person’s needs and happiness while when you become attached to someone you think about how YOUR needs are not being fulfilled by this person. Love is fearless and feelings joyous and attachment is fearful and feels bad. Most guys can sense neediness, which usually causes them to run the other direction. But they can also sense a girl who WANTS rather than needs. What is the real difference between want and need? Need is obliging the other person, that you can’t live without him, while want is being secure in yourself but liking that he be an addition to you, that you could live without him if need be. I only know this by talking to thousands of guys about this.