Joy feelings magazine January 2019 issue | Page 44

your partner’s point of
view.
We’re always going to see
things through our own
experiences first. That’s a
fact of life. But what
separates great
relationships from
mediocre ones, is a
willingness to understand
your partner’s needs,
wants and point of view.
You have to throw your
ego out the window and
understand where that
person is coming from.
When you’re struggling
emotionally with anxiety,
worry or a feeling of
inadequacy, there’s
nothing you need more
than someone to just
listen to you. Part of
commitment to your
partner is satisfying a
need for them. Be a great
listener. Do something
kind. Always express a
genuine interest in
understanding their point
of view!
What Matters Most
I’ll be the first to tell you,
spontaneity is part of
what makes love and
relationships special. And
you should always savor
the spontaneous, spur-of-
the-moment things that
make relationships great.
But it’s even more
important — for
longevity — to discuss
what matters most to you
personally and as a
couple. These are two
different things!
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