Joy feelings magazine January 2019 issue | Page 43

Dr. John Lydon from
McGill University
discussed a study in which
people were shown
pictures of women and
men of the opposite sex.
They were told to identify
the person they found
attractive. Then, it got
really interesting. He
discusses more in this
New York Times piece:
“When they were
attracted to someone
who might threaten the
relationship, they seemed
to instinctively tell
themselves, “He’s not so
great.” “The more
committed you are,” Dr.
Lydon said, “the less
attractive you find other
people who threaten your
relationship.” Source
To be faithful and
committed to my wife, I
had to eliminate the
temptations, like too
much perusing on
Facebook or letting my
mind wander too much in
social settings. We’re all
vulnerable to letting our
minds and eyes wander.
Things like alcohol,
emotionally charged
occasions and tiredness
can all contribute to
putting us in a position
where we’re weak.
Take those things out of
the picture. This requires
discipline, but then again,
so does committing to a
relationship.
A willingness to
understand things from