Joy feelings magazine January 2019 issue | Page 39

needed to most get right
was the one with myself.
You have to be right with
yourself before you can
truthfully expect to
commit to someone else.
Opposites
My wife and I, in many
respects, are opposites.
I’m much more open with
my emotions and feelings.
She tends to keep them
in. We both show our
emotional intelligence in
different ways. Socially, it
takes me a little longer to
get comfortable in a
crowd, but then, I’m a
total extrovert. My wife,
who’s more introverted, is
a social butterfly at galas
and large social
gatherings.
We defy explanation!
When it came time for me
to commit to my wife — I
guess it really depends
whose version of the story
you’d be willing to trust.
My wife knew I was “the
one” the night she met
me. No joke. It took me
far longer to figure that
out. I wasn’t thinking
about commitment. I
wasn’t ready.
What I learned from that
experience is that
commitment requires
open communication
channels and an “all-in”
mentality by both people.
Relationships require each
individual to meet in the
middle, with dual
commitment for the
present and future. Sure,
nothing is promised, but