Joy feelings magazine January 2019 issue | Page 37

in the first place. You had
to have missed the
chapter on "Be Yourself".
If you're suddenly tip-
toeing around because
you're fearful that he'll
leave, chances are he
does think you're
someone that you
pretended to be: patient,
tolerant of his bad
behavior, non-controlling,
etc. Do yourself a favor
and toss out the "how to
grab a man" books and
start over. If you weren't
yourself to begin with or
you had ulterior motives,
you've already got a
doomed relationship.
Of course, there are more
tips that could be added
to this list, but these are
worth noting and trying.
And if maintaining a
commitment becomes a
slippery slope, you can
always consult with an
advisor to get back on
solid commitment ground.
Finding rhythm in a
relationship is the biggest
challenge for a couple. It’s
easy to fall in love, once
you’ve found someone
(Prior to the relationship,
the finding someone is
indeed the hardest part!).
It’s easy to say, “I love
you,” once you’ve shared
some special moments
with a boyfriend or
girlfriend.
But what about that
consistency we all crave,
which comes only from
true commitment? That’s
a lot harder. But
absolutely possible.
Commitment begins with