JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE January 2016 issue | Page 67

Chill Out
It's only Wednesday, and things are already going wrong. Your
coffee maker spilled everywhere.
This will work best if you let your partner know ahead of time how
you best handle stress. Stomping off, muttering under your breath
without a word is a quick way to hurt someone. Before you find
yourself in a fight, know how your loved one deals with anger and
make sure they know what you need. Even saying "I need to go for a
walk. Let's talk in a few minutes," is more beneficial than
"Whatever."
Most importantly, once you're done calming down, come back. As
we mentioned earlier, when a fight erupts, you're dealing with two
problems. Calming down solves one problem and it's easy to feel like
everything is better. Sometimes it is (and we'll talk about that in the
next section), but if you're having a persistent problem with your
partner, it won't disappear just because you rocked out to
Bohemian Rhapsody for a bit.
Deal With the Situation When You Come Back

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