The more people you talk to and practice this with, the
easier it becomes and the less attached you’ll become to
getting a yes.
Every person you meet and practice with brings you one
step closer to getting a yes from the right person. Asking
people out becomes more about testing to see what works and
who you want, not a black mark against your self-worth.
Let the person know there’s no hard feelings if they say no.
You never want someone to feel obligated or put on the spot.
Give them an easy out. “Well, it was worth a try! Thanks
anyway!”
It’s flattering to be desired. Many people will feel tickled that
you took the time to ask them out. If someone makes you feel
bad for having asked them out, thank your lucky stars that you
dodged a bullet.
There’s a great Lyfe Jennings lyric: “Don’t be a nickel out
here lookin’ for a dime.” It’s a good mantra for dating. Why
should someone want to be with us? Are we acting like the
partner we want to have?
Practice. Practice. Practice.