Joy feelings magazine Feb 2020 | Page 64

Two reasons this works: First, they’re more likely to offer suggestions since the pressure’s off about being perfect and hooking you up with your one true love. That’s like asking someone to hit a Grand Slam on their first day of Little League practice. Second, you’re still very specific with this request. You’re not looking for new business contacts. You’re looking for casual relationships you can explore to see if there’s something worth pursuing. Dating is a numbers game and much of your success in asking people out requires simply connecting with a lot of folks. Your friends have classmates, coworkers, neighbors, friends of friends, a favorite barista, the list goes on. They may even arrange a personal intro if you ask. And if they don’t have a recommendation ready for you? No problem. They’ll know about social events where people with your shared interests are hanging out.