Joy feelings magazine Feb 2020 | Page 63

Try this: If you don’t have a particular person in mind to ask out, but you’re actively looking, ask your friends what interesting friends of theirs you should meet. Note how you’re not outright asking for matchmaking services. Why? Because many people aren’t good matchmakers, especially off the top of their head. Because people don’t like being put on the spot … and the paradox of choice suggests that if someone has to pick ONE person out of everyone they know, they’ll feel paralyzed and won’t make ANY choice. So instead say: “Hey, I’m looking to make new friends, and you know interesting people. Who do you know that is super cool that I should meet?”