Joy feelings magazine Feb 2020 | Page 61

Power Body Language is a way of standing and expressing yourself that not only makes you more influential with other people (in a way that’s totally authentic and honest), but it makes you feel more confident too. Confidence not only ensures you’ll actually ask the person out; a University of California study found that students consistently ranked people who spoke up often as more intelligent than they really were. So confidence literally makes people think you’re smart and a leader! All good traits to have when you’re trying to put your best foot forward and impress someone. If you’re still nervous about asking someone out, consider that we spend the majority of our lives worrying too much about ourselves and don’t pay nearly as much attention to other people’s perceived flaws. In other words, whatever you’re self-conscious about? The other person’s probably too busy feeling self-conscious to notice. So cut yourself some slack. It’s likely the other person will be flattered you asked them out (or impressed, because the very idea makes them nervous too).