Asking Someone Out Over the Phone:
Let them know you are going to give them a call with a
heads up text or email. This increases the chances they will
pick-up. Or if they push back on the phone call, you know that
they might not be ready to be asked out.
Whatever you do, never leave a voicemail or a note asking
someone out. You have no way of knowing whether they got
the message or not, and you lose the element of warmth that
comes from asking them directly.
Asking Someone Out Over Text:
Let’s get something out of the way: I like texting to build
suspense and get to know each other BUT too much texting is
dangerous because it sets a precedent. You don’t want the
potential relationship to hinge on texting instead of face-to-
face communication. And you definitely don’t want to finally
show up to a date and awkwardly realize the rapport you had
over text doesn’t translate to real life.
Texts should be primarily used for two things: