Joy feelings magazine Feb 2020 | Page 49

Be flexible. They may say no … only because they’re busy that weekend or they hate Italian food. They may make a new suggestion, which is great news for you because compromise means they want to make this work. Be cool and casual. You’re not a salesperson, and you’re not closing a deal. If the person says yes, smile and say great. Never be pushy or make them uncomfortable. Step #4: Digital or In-Person? Building confidence, talking to people, gaining their trust? Those things take time and practice. Here’s the good news: asking someone out only takes a few seconds! The question is: Do you ask someone out in person, through text, online, through email, on social media, on a dating app…? I think this is an essential part of your success. You want to pick the method that makes YOU most comfortable. Of course, I will always recommend in-person because you can easily read their body language and gauge how they’re taking it, modify your behavior accordingly and either quickly redirect or run.