Joy feelings magazine Feb 2020 | Page 45

We hate small talk. We hate it so much that we’ll avoid people altogether so we won’t have to deal with the same awful questions: “So, what do you do?” “Where are you from?” “Come here often?” Ironically, though we hate small talk, we cling to it like a shipwreck victim on a life preserver. Why? Because it’s all we know. And everyone else is doing it, too. So much for our mom asking us, “If all the other kids jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?” Now we know the answer would be: Yes, of course. Here’s what you can do instead: Ask them for advice. “Where’s a good place to eat around here?,” “Is it worth signing up at this gym? What’d you like