many older adults have far
more time to devote to pleasure
and intimacy. Use your time to
become more intimate.
fosters confidence and
comfort, and can help
both erectile and dryness
problems.
Stretch your experience.
Start with a romantic
dinner—or breakfast—
before lovemaking. Share
romantic or erotic
literature and poetry.
Having an experience
together, sexual or not, is
a powerful way of
connecting intimately.
Don’t be shy. Hold hands
and touch your partner
often, and encourage him
or her to touch you. Tell
your partner what you
love about him/her, and
share your ideas about
new sexual experiences
you might have together.
Relax. Find something
that relaxes both partners,
whether it’s trying
massage or baths
together. Relaxation
Expanding your definition of
sex
Sexuality necessarily takes on
a broader definition as we age.
Try to open up to the idea that
sex can mean many things, and
that closeness with a partner
can be expressed in many
ways.
It’s not just about
intercourse. Sex can also
be about emotional
pleasure, sensory
pleasure, and relationship
pleasure. Intercourse is
only one way to have
fulfilling sex. Touching,
kissing, and other
intimate sexual contact
can be just as rewarding
for both you and your
partner.
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