following strategies as you
begin the conversation.
Be playful. Being playful
can make communication
about sex a lot easier. Use
humor, gentle teasing, and
even tickling to lighten
the mood.
Be honest. Honesty
fosters trust and relaxes
both partners—and can be
very attractive. Let your
partner know how you are
feeling and what you
hope for in a sex life.
Discuss new ideas. If you
want to try something
new, discuss it with your
partner, and be open to
his or her ideas, too. The
senior years—with more
time and fewer
distractions—can be a
time of creativity and
passion.
Modernize. You may
belong to a generation in
which sex was a taboo
subject. But talking
openly about your needs,
desires, and concerns with
your partner can make
you closer—and help you
both enjoy sex and
intimacy.
Tips for better sex as you age:
Focus on intimacy and physical
touch
A good sex life—at any age—
involves a lot more than just
sex. It’s also about intimacy
and touch, things anyone can
benefit from. Even if you have
health problems or physical
disabilities, you can engage in
intimate acts and benefit from
closeness with another person.
Take the pressure off by
putting aside your old ideas of
what sex “should be.” Focus
instead on the importance of
tenderness and contact.
Taking your time
Without pressing workloads or
young children to worry about,
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