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intimacy
• Secrets and lack of
relationship trust
The simple truth is that
everyone is different and
there is not a "norm" for
sexual behavior. Some
people are heterosexual;
others are homosexual or
bisexual. Some people are
into a fetish or kink;
others are relatively
"vanilla." Some people
like to get it on a lot;
others can take it or leave
it. That's the way it is,
that's who we are and
there is nothing inherently
right or wrong with any of
it. As long as your sexual
behavior (or lack of it)
isn't illegal, affecting your
self-esteem, troubling to
your relationship or
leading to negative life
consequences, why
worry?
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Sexless and Happy?
Really? Sure. Maybe.
People who are having a
lot of sex are usually
pretty OK with that.
Typically, they only worry
about things if they
are sexually addicted and
their carnal compulsivity
is causing problems.
Frankly, most couples
who worry about
frequency of sex tend to
fear their frequency is
significantly below the
curve, so to speak. This is
especially true for couples
who qualify as "sexless."
Generally speaking, a
sexless marriage is one in
which a committed couple
has sex less than 10 times
per year. About 15 to 20
percent of long-term
couples fall into this
category. This may or may
not be an issue, depending
on the couple. Some