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one or more of the
following tips:
• Schedule it. Sure, this
sounds horribly
unromantic, but really it's
quite the opposite. Setting
aside and committing to a
time to be emotionally and
physically intimate gives
you and your partner
something to look forward
to. Plan a relaxing shower
and mutual massage as
part of foreplay. After all,
who doesn't look forward
to a massage? Couples
who search together for
the right scent of massage
oil are off to a great start.
• Mix it up. Perhaps
you've always had that
special secret fantasy, but
you've never mentioned it
or acted on it. Now is the
time to talk about it with
your partner. Who knows,
maybe he or she is willing
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to try it. And be sure to
ask about his or her secret
fantasy. It might be a turnon for you, too. Just make
sure that if you both say
yes, you really mean to
say yes. No regrets,
please.
• Go away. If you've
always done it in the
bedroom, try the kitchen,
or a hotel, or a cruise ship,
or a cabin in the woods.
It's amazing what a little
change of venue can do
for a stale sex life. Many
couples take frequent
weekends or holidays just
for this purpose.
• Be romantic. Give your
partner a gift "just
because." Write a list of
things you love about your
partner and give it to him
or her. Plan a surprise date
that involves an activity
you know your partner
enjoys (even if it's not