consequential disagreements . These bigger conflicts , left unattended , will cultivate into raw open wounds , possibly passive-aggressive behaviors or worse , full-on battles intent on destruction . These imbalances of power and the subsequent , un-ending power plays that result generate a great deal of pain .
Mostly , people pull power plays because they believe it ’ s the only way to ensure they get what they want . Sadly , it may get them what they want on the surface or in the short term , but at what sacrifice ? Oh yes , there may be fleeting feelings of victory , superiority , righteousness , and hierarchy , but then what ?
Typically , someone who pulls a powerplay and gets a short-term victory often loses in the end . First , because what they really craved was still not satisfied . Second , because when everyone else keeps “ losing ” to them , others stop engaging , caring and wanting to be with the supposed “ winner .” Over time , power antics lead to disrespect and distance . Over half of all marriages end in divorce . A base cause is that one or both partners seek power over the other instead of connection with their best friend .
Connection Creates Lasting Relationships
The only long-term relationships that thrive are the ones where both people crave connection . When you crave connection , you solve problems through communication and empathy . When you crave connection , you actively listen and seek understanding . The goal is to help your partner feel understood , accepted , and loved , and for them to know and truly believe they have a witness to their life .
When you seek connection , ironically , you must acknowledge there is a separate sentient human being sitting across from you with his or her own wants and desires . Hence why you need to connect . They . Are . Separate . From . You . And . They . Are . Not . You . You must accept this fact before you can connect .
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