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Offering guidance on the attitudinal qualities to cultivate:
Be attentive to the presence/absence within practice guidance of:
o Guidance on the spirit to bring to the practice. Inviting
gentleness, lightness of touch, curiosity about the experiences
unfolding; balancing gentleness with a firmness of intention;
taking care of self; letting go of judgement and self-criticism.
o Encouraging non-striving by reminding participants about letting
go of needing / wanting to ‘do’ anything. E.g. “allowing
experience to be as it is”; “seeing if the breath breathes itself and
simply bringing awareness to the experience of this”.
o Avoiding language which might feed into a sense of striving –
words such as ‘trying’, ‘working’, ‘seeing if you can…’ can be
unhelpful.
o Spaciousness – balancing silence with guidance, and using
language economically.
o Using present participles (attending, bringing awareness’ etc.) to
convey a feeling of guiding/inviting rather than ordering, to
reduce resistance.
o Sometimes using ‘the’ rather than ‘your’ – e.g. ‘the breath’ – to
encourage participants to be less identified with the body.
Guidance for feature:
(ii) the teacher guides the practice in a way which makes the key
learning for each practice available to participants

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