Lebo: LOL! I don’t feel like there’s a sticker on my head
that reads ‘single’ .So I experience as many creeps as
the next girl. Just the assumption that I WANT to be in
a relationship makes me feel like going on a rant! But
whatever, I do find men can’t understand WHY I would
turn them down. All ‘cause I’m single and supposedly
ready to mingle…
FF: Yeah, uhm, I’ve been shut down by girls like you
before… Honestly, it’s so much easier being single when
you really get into it without pining for your ‘better half’.
Look, it can be frustrating as a single and scouting guy
living around the burg of Johannes. You often have to try
everything and anything. We’ve got to deal with music
that’s too loud, unresponsive girls who aren’t interested
in talking because they’re out partying with friends or, in
my case, they’re not nearly drunk enough… Not having
to deal with this whole debacle has made me quite, if
not very, happy.
Lebo: I think it’s safe to say that single is different for
everyone. But the most important thing to remember is
that being single is not something to be looked down
upon. We should embrace all of it, the challenges
(stereotipical attitudes and the like…) and remember that
the best gift you can give another is self-development!
That’s why, even when you do get into a relationship,
trying to actually find time for self-evaluation will be the
norm. I could get into a million reasons why I love my
single season, but I’ll start feeling like I’m trying to sell
it...so can I live?
FF: Y’know, being single can be fun and fulfilling in it’s
own way. Most important would be the ability to realize
who you actually are. And if you know who you are then
you know what you want and don’t want in your life. If
anything, being single helps set the stage for a decent
relationship (and the better the relationship the better
the sex… somebody said it somewhere…).Hey, it may
be a bit frustrating. But knowledge of who you actually
are has its own rewards.I’m reminded of that cliché
going around: “How can you love another if you can’t
first love yourself?”
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