A LT E R N AT I V E T H I N K I N G
FF: Being single is awesome. I don’t need to check in,
no need to organize my life around another person’s
schedule. Maybe it’s just me, but those lovey-dovey,
kissey-kissey “Oh baby, I missed you” relationships are
actually quite overrated – if not entirely scary… But
that’s just me.
Lebo: As a woman – I get the “why you are you single ?”
question all the time. Uhm, I don’t recall people being
interrogated as to why they are in a relationship. And let
us not forget all that talk about the biological clock. As if
I am only alive for reproductive purposes.
FF: Woman being stereotyped as an oven that’s supposed
to have a bun isn’t fair at all, totally. I’ll say this, the pressure
a woman feels is far more intense compared to men. It’s
out of character for modern times. I mean, c’mon, we’re
living in an era where woman have fought hard for their
independence and to have equal footing with men (I’m
sure there’s a Beyonce song about it somewhere). Anyway,
one thing is for certain: being a single man compared to a
single woman is totally different.
Lebo: Society is way more lenient on the single man;
if he is single it’s supposedly by choice. As for myself,
I’m constantly told I’m too ‘difficult’. I don’t get the
sentiment in that, I feel like it takes a strong woman to
dismiss an emotionally incompatible man – especially a
single one!
FF: Absolutely, us guys face fewer questions when it
comes to being alone. For family and friends, it’s not a
big deal for me to be the proverbial ‘lone wolf’ since the
bachelor lifestyle is seen as ‘cool’ and ‘enviable’. Look,
I’ve been single for over a year now (your judgment
is acknowledged and denied) and like I said, the only
really cool thing about it is the free time. When it comes
to going out, I blame my drinking problem on trying to
drown out the sounds of my friends sucking face as I
quietly sit and contemplate Immanuel Kant (or at least
pretend to). One word: Awkward. Makes me wonder
what it’s like for a single lady when she goes out. I’m
guessing you have to deal with a lot of creeps.
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