IDEA MAGAZINE September-November 2015 | Page 18

HOW COMMUNICATION BONDS RELATIONSHIPS . . . By: Iran guzman Just the other day I was sitting at a coffee shop with a colleague, and among the various things that we had discussed, the topic of relationships came up. He intimated that some of his friends, who have emigrated from different countries are having difficulties navigating the dating scene in America–– so are my American friends, I thought! And then the jugular-‘why are relationships so difficult in America?’ He asked? ‘Especially, for immigrants’, he continued. As a fellow analyst in the field of conflict resolution and peacebuilding, he then asked for my opinion on some of the barriers that make it difficult for immigrants to form relationships in America. This is an interesting question granted that dating in general can be tricky. There are so many variables that contribute to the complexities of relationship building; for example, men and women are two separate species that often view romance quite differently. To this end, the formation of a romantic relationship can be difficult even for members of the same culture. Not only that, but based on conversations with American friends, it seems that finding a romantic partner these days is more complicated than ever before. That said, I can only imagine how much more complex dating may become for individuals living in a new country altogether. Generally speaking, American culture is commonly viewed as very “open” and liberal. It is where individuals are always ready to socialize in order to expand their networks. Not only that, but America is a large nation, it is a melting pot and is more varied than it may seem, so there really is no single rule to dealing with relationships. IDEA DIAPORA 17