Huffington Magazine Issue 78 | Page 55

COURTESY OF AMY WRUBLE ‘AT LEAST YOU HAVE ONE CHILD’ completely belong to any one category. They are not “infertile” in the way that people struggling to have a first baby are, and yet there is some thing — often unknown — preventing them from becoming parents again. “You’re in this unique circumstance,” said Susan Allen, a licensed marriage and family therapist in California who focuses on infertility and leads infertility HUFFINGTON 12.08.13 “It’s not like I begrudge anyone their children, but it’s hard not to go to that dark place.” support groups. “You’re hovering between two worlds.” GUILT AND JEALOUSY “I’ve had friends and family say to me, ‘You should be grateful. At least you have one child,”’ said Melissa Bouzek, a 31-yearold from Wisconsin who has an Amy Wruble, 43, began trying for a second child soon after the birth of her first, knowing that her fertility window was closing.