Huffington Magazine Issue 73 | Page 34

COURTESY OF ANDI SLIGH Voices My daughter isn’t a star athlete, but she does participate in sports — softball and swim team — and I’ve seen firsthand the impact she has on others simply by showing up. My son spreads joy and sunshine everywhere he goes. They know him by name and give him free baked goods at our local supermarket. It’s amazing to me how often I hear other people exclaim, “I love that little guy!” When I became a mom, I thought my job was to mold and shape my children into their best selves. To my surprise, my children have molded and shaped me. I no longer am afraid to speak up in defense of others, ANDI SLIGH HUFFINGTON 11.03.13 The diagnosis was a blow, and as much as I love being her mom, in the beginning I felt cheated.” and my lifelong struggle with perfectionism is (mostly) a thing of the past. I value virtues like compassion and patience more than success and achievement. My children’s disabilities challenged my thinking and reordered my values. Simply put, my children molded and shaped me into a better — more perfectly human — version of myself. Andi Sligh is the author of There’s Sunshine Behind the Clouds: Surviving the Early Years. Andi Sligh with her children, Sarah Kate and Nathan.