Huffington Magazine Issue 71 | Page 70

COURTESY OF DREW LE Exit never dealt with a partner outright refusing to be present during the birth, she said, but she has encountered partners whose apprehension is palpable. “Sometimes they have that glassy look in their eye, especially if it’s someone who gets a little nervous if they see blood,” she said. “I say, ‘If you’re feeling a little nervous, sit down, stay toward the head of the bed, because the overall experience will be there even if you don’t watch.’” Sometimes watching a partner give birth is too much for even the most enthusiastic dad-to-be. When his son, who is now 2 years old, was born, Drew Le, a 34-yearold music professor, was doing fine until the anesthesiologist appeared to administer the epidural. The physician took out the needle and tried to insert it into his wife’s back several times. “By the third poke, I was getting lightheaded,” Le said. “The anesthesiologist turned to me and said, ‘Lie down on the floor and close your eyes.’ So there I am, lying on the cold hospital room floor.” His laboring wife just laughed, he said. After he recovered from his wooziness, Le worried that he wouldn’t be able to handle the LIFESTYLE HUFFINGTON 10.20.13 My adrenaline and excitement and love for my wife and that new, living creature overpowered any squeamishness I might have had.” birth itself, but the process ended up being “so fascinatingly beautiful,” he said. “My adrenaline and excitement and love for my wife and that new, living creature overpowered any squeamishness I might have had.” Several months ago, when his second baby was born, Le took some precautions. When the anesthesiologist came in, he left the room, returning only after the epidural was administered. Drew Le knew to leave the room during the birth of his second child.