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Exit they don’t always know how to be a meaningful part of labor. Research suggests it’s important for partners to get guidance, especially after a difficult birth. When a team from Oxford University interviewed 10 men and one woman whose partners had experienced life-threatening complications during birth, they found that all of them were “deeply affected” by the experience, and at least one even experienced subsequent depression and post-traumatic stress disorder. “We are not suggesting that fathers should be less involved in childbirth, but [we are] calling for a greater awareness of the impact that these births can have on both the mother and the father,” said study researcher Lisa Hinton. Even increasingly routine scenarios can unnerve partners. Lawrence Scheer, 37, who co-founded Magnificent Baby (a clothing company) and who was not involved in the Oxford study, said he was “terrified” when his wife, Marina, was wheeled toward the operating room for a cesarean section seven months ago. “The whole time they’re down there cutting her up, and she’s moving — I could see her being jerked around by the LIFESTYLE HUFFINGTON 10.20.13 cutting and poking and tearing,” he said. “It was pretty traumatic.” The most extreme voice in the “dads in the delivery room” debate is French obstetrician Dr. Michel Odent, who argues that men should not be in the delivery room — period. Odent published a research paper claiming that the presence of fathers, or men in general, during delivery limits a woman’s production of oxytocin, I thought, ‘Wow, I’m literally looking at the grossest thing I’ll ever see,’ but I didn’t care. I was watching my child be born.” slowing labor and increasing the likelihood of cesarean delivery. But the evidence supporting that claim is scant at best, and most birthing experts disagree. “I think all partners should participate,” 6