Huffington Magazine Issue 63 | Page 54

LEA VITTORIA UVA W HY AM I ASEXUAL? I was born this way,” said Mark McClemont from his office in Reading, England. “It’s not a phase I’m growing out of, and it’s not a choice,” the 49-year-old continued, his voice pinched with agitation. “For people who say we choose to be asexual, why would anyone choose to do that? Why wouldn’t you choose to be bisexual? Then you get the best of both worlds. It doesn’t work that way.” As asexuals (or “aces”) like McClemont begin to stake a claim for a more visible place in society, the question of why asexuals are asexual is starting to form on people’s lips. There have yet to be any definitive answers, but there hasn’t been a shortage of theories posited by researchers, medical professionals and aces themselves. Sexologist and professor Anthony Bogaert, considered by many to be the father of asexuality research, says that current data point to “some intriguing clues that there may be a biological disposition that pushes [aces] to an asexual orientation.” However, he admits “it’s still very much an open question.” When we posted a message on an asexuality subreddit and asked self-identified aces to explain the reasons behind their asexuality, some agreed there may be a biological explanation, but most offered more nebulous responses. “I’m asexual for the same reason that straight people are straight,” one Reddit user wrote in reply. Other asexuals said that perhaps a sex “switch” wasn’t clicked on in their brain, while some argued that their asexuality is just another part of an already complicated spectrum. Although most aces insist that asexuality is merely an aspect of their identity, the conversation about why asexuals are asexual “It’s not a phase I’m growing
out of, and it’s not a choice,” says 49-year-old asexual Mark McClemont (center).