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> ROMANCE PREDATORS Ty Fortner’s profile on Sugar Daddies.com credit card, send them to the victim’s house, and ask the victim to ship the goods back to them. Check-kiting is another popular tactic. Romantic predators ask their victim to cash a check for them and wire the money along. Victims later discover that the check they cashed never cleared and that law enforcement officials are investigating them for fraud. According to Sluppick, victims have ended up facing criminal charges when all they thought they were doing was helping someone they loved in a perfectly legal way. The list of strategies that prime a victim to do these things goes on and on, and it all amounts to a steady courtship and seduction aimed at making a victim a softer and more accessible mark. “I’m not afraid to call it grooming, because that’s what it is,” says Savage, the FBI agent. “It doesn’t matter who you are, what you look like, what your education level is, or how much money you make.” What scammers are good at, Savage HUFFINGTON 06.24.12 said, is exploiting whatever vulnerability they detect. For Bourgeois, that meant the promise of a baby. For Wheaton, it may well have been as simple as her scammer knowing she was a good Christian. Although the majority of romance scams are still dominated by men working out of West Africa, in recent years similar schemes have also started emanating from other parts of the world, according to analysts and law enforcement officials. Savage, the FBI agent, says the growth reflects the success predators are enjoying. “We are seeing it from all corners of the world,” he says. “I think we’re seeing the majority of it from Africa, but if it’s working, then other people are going to jump on board with it.” MALE MODELS Fred, who is 49 and works as a physician in the Chicago area and asked that his full name not be used for this article, says he began an online relationship two years ago with someone he believed to be a male model from St. Petersburg. Fred admits that he’s a romantic who falls in love quickly, and that all the model really had to do to draw him in was give him some attention. “I’m shy. I’m quiet. I do have low self-esteem,” Fred says. “I have a very hard time meeting people, whether it’s romantic love, friendship, anything. And he made it so easy.”