How to Coach Yourself and Others Techniques For Coaching | Page 86

When trying to mirror someone look for their language pattern. Is it
deliberate or fast? Try to measure their breathing pattern in the same
way. Is it fast or slow? Reflect it. Watch out for their body language. If
they are relaxed, don’t lean in aggressively.
Being flexible in how you act around your coaching coachees will help
you to be a better coach. It will help you build rapport, their feelings of
safety and their receptiveness to your coaching.
4. Be charismatic.
When coaching act as if your coachee is your whole world. Focusing
intently on them will build rapport. It will make them feel important
and make it easier for them to trust you and this trust will make them
more sympathetic to your coaching.
In order to focus intently on them get into a quiet space to coach. This
should be away from distractions. Make it easy on yourself to focus. For
example, don’t coach somewhere where there is a lot of action going on
behind your coachee. If necessary, face a wall with your coachee in
front of you to make it easy on yourself.
If you are distracted during the coaching session it is like saying your
coachee is of less importance than what is distracting. What does it say
to answer a phone while listening to another person?
5. Be understanding.
One other way to build rapport is let your coachee know that you
understand where they are coming from. When you acknowledge them,
that is you say and demonstrate that you understand, it doesn’t mean
you agree it just means that you have heard them.
This creates an absence of vulnerability because people want to know
that they have been heard. That makes them feel important and makes
it easier to trust.
To demonstrate that you understand let them know that their words
make sense to you and, when possible, that you have had similar
experiences and thoughts. This might be done by telling them about a
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