How to Coach Yourself and Others Techniques For Coaching | Page 421

To be able to let go of ingrained patterns, a coachee not only has to
pluck up the necessary courage but also put up a lot of energy, while he
doesn't know in advance if it's all going to be worth it in the long run. So
he can do with some extra motivational challenge in order to change.
Look for clues in the coachee's story that can be turned into 'rewards'.
Stimulate the coachee to think in terms of daring to choose a goal and
then really go for it. A good challenge will help the coachee to go on
when he is encountering difficulties on the road to change and will help
him not to give up at the first hurdle. Make sure the coachee regards the
challenge as his own and encourage the coachee to challenge himself.
Take into consideration not every coachee likes challenges or responds
equally well to it.
I really have to give up a lot: going out with my friends, drinking, having
fun... What do I get in return? Having to go to bed early, being on a strict
diet and training till I virtually drop. And for what?
Oh, I don't know, you're already the champ of British Columbia, so
if you beat a few more opponents from a few other states you're the
national champion. You're still young so becoming the champion of
North America could also be on the cards. There are more guys
who did it, so why not you?
I'm afraid to go to Gamblers Anonymous.
Well, it is a bit of a gamble what it will be like, but it might be the
best gamble you ever took in your life!
I don't know what to wear when she comes. I haven't had a girlfriend
for ages. I am going to call it off.
Cancelling is an option, but think of all the nice things that can
happen if you're having a candlelight diner with romantic music
and enjoying each other's company.
For coachees to challenge themselves, you need to ask the questions in
such a way that the coachee will start challenging himself. You let him
state what would motivate and stimulate him to reach his goal or to
achieve his aim.

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