How to Coach Yourself and Others Techniques For Coaching | Seite 404

The applications are innumerable. Feel the urge to walk away, crack a
joke, grab the donut, have a drink, sigh deeply, view porn, spend
irresponsibly or approach the wrong mate?
Stop the automatic response and see what thoughts and feelings arise.
Tie it back to an earlier memory. You may discover the hidden meaning
for the behavior, which gives you power to control it.
When to use the Hunger Illusion?
Usually they bring up the subject of something they either can't do or
can't not do: what happens to you if you don't drink? If you have an
alcohol problem and you go back to your buddies and tell them, "I'm
not gonna go into the tavern," you might think, "well, they'll think I'm
not a man, I'm not tough." So maybe you drink partly to feel virile, like
one of the guys. You may not have known that until you literally don't
go and say, "no, I don't drink anymore." It helps you learn about
yourself.
How does it help the client?
Well, they learn what they're really afraid of and then they can look for
other places where they have the same fear, and if you can attack a
thing from many sides, pick up a blanket from many sides, you can
really deal with a problem better than if you pick it up from one. If
you're afraid of asking for things from men then maybe the first thing
you have to do is return a broken iPod to a clerk and then ultimately
you'll be asking to run the company, you know, down the line.
What makes the Hunger Illusion a cool intervention?
What makes it cool is that it's easy to do, it's available, it doesn't require
deep analytic theory, you don't have to be a Freudian or subscribe to
Mahler's Rapprochement theory. It's cool because it's waiting for us. It
gives unique information, it doesn't fall into any theoretical stereotype
and I think that makes things cool when they don't follow the lines of
some one true light, someone's one religion. It's available to all of us.
Yourself, as a therapist too, which makes it cool. You don't have to pay
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