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Questions for coaching
The purpose of these questions is to bring forth answers
from your (or your friend's, if you are coaching a friend) own
store of values, experiences and abilities. They will also help
you to turn your situation on its head and give you a new
perspective.
The Miracle question
"Suppose our meeting is over, you go home, do whatever you
planned to do for the rest of the day. And then, some time in
the evening, you get tired and go to sleep. And in the middle
of the night, when you are fast asleep, a miracle happens and
all the problems that brought you here today are solved just
like that. But since the miracle happened over night nobody
is telling you that the miracle happened. When you wake up
the next morning, how are you going to start discovering
that the miracle happened? ... Ask, what else are you going to
notice? What else?"
In a specific situation, the practitioner may ask,
"If you woke up tomorrow, and a miracle happened so that
you no longer easily lost your temper, what would you see
differently?" What would the first signs be that the miracle
occurred?"
A child might respond by saying: "I would not get upset
when somebody calls me names."

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