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doing so, you contribute to UPlifting someone’s day by reminding them
of the truth of who they are.
When you deliver the compliment, you can add extra value to it by
turning i tinto a personal endorsement. Simply add a bit of personal
touch so the recipient really connects to what you are saying. For
example, when I see a woman in a beautiful dress I say something like,
“You look absolutely amazing in that dress” as opposed to, “That’s a
great dress.”
It’s so fun to surprise someone with words of affirmation and
acknowledgment! You realize the healing power of giving people
genuine compliments as you see the smiles rush to their faces.
And don’t limit your compliments to people who seem like they could
use it. Whenever you see something that strikes you in a positive way
instead of just thinking it, share it with the person! Go out of your way
to pay someone a compliment to experience the pay off of appreciation.
Also, being a compliment Columbo is one of the best ways I know to
deal with comparison and jealousy. The instant we go into envy, we are
in a state of depreciation. Paying someone a genuine compliment
immediately shifts our energy toward one of appreciation. And the
more we are in that energy, the more we recognize our unique own
beauty, worth, and gifts. So the next time you find yourself comparing
yourself to someone, compliment them instead, because really it’s just
criminal to believe anyone one is better or worse than you.
Compliment, Endorsement or Acknowledgement
A compliment is a positive statement about a behavior or thing.
Emotionally it's detached. Comments such as "great job", "nice play",
"beautiful jacket", or "good work" are all compliments. They are nice to
receive, but really don't say much about the person who is receiving
them. Compliments are appropriate for showing appreciation to people
you don't know well such as the gas station attendant who washes your
windows or the clerk in the grocery store, but may leave someone you
have a relationship with feeling appreciative but empty.
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