How to Coach Yourself and Others Techniques For Coaching | Page 20

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“Deeper empathy” is the ability to use empathy to help
others understand themselves, their world, personal
situation, thoughts and feelings better and in another
perspective.
Often the coach will
1. Use questions like “Could it be …”, “Perhaps you might see
…”, “I feel you may think now …” , “you might ask yourself…”,
“Perhaps you feel …”, “it may be that …”, “it seems as if you
are feeling …”
2. Followed by a reflection of information implied by
cochee’s message, but not put into words by them. This
might include naming of themes, patterns, isolated elements
or inconsistencies of thoughts or feelings.
3. and by the suggestion of alternative viewpoints or
perspectives
Example (E = empathy / E+ = deeper empathy)
Statement coachee: “I cannot bear to see her laying there
like that.”
E:
I can imagine it must be very emotional to see her
laying there so helplessly.
E+: I can tell you are suffering, you would s o much like her
to get well but there is nothing you can do about it and you
feel powerless.

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