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5 Full Celebration
Fully present to the coachee, sharing emotion, eyes watering or
tearing, hand on shoulder, thumbs up, applause, expressing a high
sense of value and regard for the success or experience and doing so
with emotion, "Good on you!" "Right on!"
4 Encouraging Celebration
From pacing to leading in celebrating by giving space and time to be
with the emotions of the value and success, articulating the success in
semantically packed words ("This begins to move you to your desired
future, doesn't it?")
3 Matching State
Asks meta-questions about the meaning of the success or comment,
uses validating language to get expression of value to the success.
High eye contact, presence, emotion in voice and body. Matching
Coachee's state.
2 Verbal Acknowledgment
Verbally acknowledging emotion or enthusiasm. Good bit of eye
contact and presence. Asks some primary questions about the
success.
1 Low Emotional Response
Disinterested listening as evidenced by little eye contact, matching,
voice flat, low emotional response, no enthusiasm.
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Unresponsive

No emotion or enthusiasm at the announcement of any success the a
coachee mentions.
Unresponsive: comments are ignored or
discounted. No matching of coachee's state, no time or room to
celebrate. No eye contact. Weak sense of being present to the
coachee.

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