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solutions within a system and become aware of them, useful
changes are easier to introduce and maintain.
• Communication theory: As coaches, we realise that we can
never fully and accurately understand what our coachees wish
to tell us. So, since we are anyway going to interpret
subjectively, why not assume that whatever our coachees say
about solutions makes sense? The coach should always consider
what the coachee says useful and helpful.
Investigations into very different forms of counseling have
shown that appreciative and coacheecentered coaches are
especially effective.
Practical examples – simple, but not easy
The solution-focused procedure is simple. But consistently
adopting the appropriate attitude when coaching is not.
For coaches, it requires much self-discipline to remain solutionfocused and client-ce ntered. Nevertheless, it is always a worthwhile adventure , because it helps clients find their own eff
ective solutions very quickly. Furthermore , it frees coaches
from the burden of problem-solving, thereby trustfully placing
responsibility in the hands of the true expe rt – the c lie nt!
Coaching questions reflecting the typical structure of a
solutionfocused discussion.
First stage – Expectations of the future
C: What needs to happen here today, so that later on, you will be
able to say that it was worthwhile
discussing coaching with me?
C: How would that be different for you?.
C: And how would your coachees know that you are doing
things right?
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