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 If the coach accepts and shares his feelings of vulnerability
and insecurity, coachee will express more easily his own
feelings as well.
 Concruence creates trust
 Concruence channels directness and honesty in
relationschips
 Congruence in spoken language and body language makes
communication more clear.
 Congruence stimulates the energy flows in the relationship
 The coachee feels listened too and accepted and does not
have to fear being judged
 The coach can let his inner voice inspire him
 A congruent meeting is an authentic meeting. It is in this
kind of surrounding that the most significant learning takes
place.

Phases in Congruity
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Being present in daily routine and relationships
React in a session to any opportunity offered
Coach and coachee allow themselves to meet the other
and remain involved with each other.

For a relationship to exist, a minimum of connection is required.
When the coachee is incapable of establishing and maintaining
connection, the therapist or coach will name what he sees,
hears, feels, … in the external world (actions, body-language,
communication, …) with the goal to create awareness and to
repair the capacity of psychological contact.

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