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The Bs, beliefs that are most important in the A-B-C model are
explicit and implicit philosophical meanings and assumptions
about events, personal desires, and preferences. The Bs, beliefs
that are most significant are highly evaluative and consist of
interrelated and integrated cognitive, emotional and
behavioural aspects and dimensions. According to REBT, if a
person's evaluative B, belief about the A, activating event is
rigid, absolutistic and dysfunctional, the C, the emotional and
behavioural consequence, is likely to be self-defeating and
destructive. Alternatively, if a person's evaluative B, belief is
preferential, flexible and constructive, the C, the emotional and
behavioural consequence is likely to be self-helping and
constructive.
Through REBT, by understanding the role of their mediating,
evaluative and philosophically based illogical, unrealistic and
self-defeating meanings, interpretations and assumptions in
upset, people often can learn to identify them, begin to D,
dispute, refute, challenge and question them, distinguish them
from healthy constructs, and subscribe to more constructive and
self-helping constructs.
REBT is a form of cognitive behaviour therapy that is simple
enough and effective enough to be used by anybody and -- it
works.
The"ABC's" help us to stop being victimized by our own
thinking.
A common example is the issue of someone else's behaviour
"making us angry." Anger is a common emotion, but very
damaging in how it makes you feel (and its impact on how
others feel.)

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