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Holding this belief when faced with adversity tends to
contribute to feelings of anger, rage, fury, and vindictiveness.
3. "The conditions under which I live absolutely MUST, at
practically all times, be favourable, safe, hassle-free, and quickly
and easily enjoyable, and if they are not that way it's awful and
horrible and I can't bear it. I cannot ever enjoy myself at all. My
life is impossible and hardly worth living."
Holding this belief when faced with adversity tends to
contribute to frustration and discomfort, intolerance, self-pity,
anger, depression, and to behaviours such as procrastination,
avoidance, and inaction.
One of the fundamental premises of REBT is that humans, in
most cases, do not merely get upset by unfortunate adversities,
but also by how they construct their views of reality through
their language, evaluative beliefs, meanings and philosophies
about the world, themselves and others.
This concept has been attributed as far back as the Greek
Philosopher Epictetus, who is often cited as utilizing similar
ideas in antiquity.
In REBT, coachees usually learn and begin to apply this premise
by learning the A-B-C-model of psychological disturbance and
change.
The A-B-C model states that it normally is not merely an A,
adversity (or activating event) that contributes to disturbed and
dysfunctional emotional and