How to Coach Yourself and Others Popular Models for Coaching | Page 135

 Personalization – Attribution of personal responsibility (or causal role or blame) for events over which a person has no control. Some of the techniques used in the cognitive behavioural model are: - Homework (researching sources that are helpful to solve the problems) - Confrontation of situations in which the problem surfaces. (analysing risky situations, preparing how to cope with them and exercising strategies) Focus points are: - Change in thinking is a start, but it is not enough: the actual behaviour must change. - Not the problem, but the solution should be the focus. In solution-oriented conversations, the problem and its consequences can be defined and discussed. Emphasis however must always be on the solution rather than the problem. - The solution is obtained through change. “Change” therefore is an interesting approach in the coach / coachee communication: - What has changed since last session? - How was the change realised? - How did coachee cope with the new situation? - What are possible consequences? - How does coachee feel about it? - The use of slogans and clear language often inspires coachee to sudden insight or motivates him to think independently. 137