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4. Explore emotions:
a. “I wonder how you feel about this?”
b. “And how does this make you feel?”
c. “How is all this affecting you?”
d. “What does this mean for you?”
e. “How do you cope with this situation?”
f. “What will you gain by reaching / not reaching your
goal?”
g. “How will it feel to succeed?”
h. “How does this fit with your way of life? - values? plans? …”
i. “Which concrete doubts / fears do you have regarding …”
5. Identify problems: The aim here is to prioritize: which
problems are more important and urgent to the coachee?
What will we focus on first?
a. Summarize: “We have discussed a number of issues…” +
name them!
Then ask: “Which issue is most important to you at this
moment?”
b. Haven you been in a situation similar to the one you are
in now earlier in life?
How did you solve the problem that time?
c. What other circumstances affect you with regard to this
matter? Would you like to have a closer look at these
circumstances?
d. What is the first target you would like to work toward?
e. What are you afraid of?
6. Explore the problem in more detail
a. “Why exactly are you seeing this as the most important
issue?”
b. “Can you tell me more about…”
c. “Which obstacles keep you from solving this problem?”
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