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 Switch to a lighter subject, or put the ball in someone else’s court (i.e. stop talking;
let someone else speak for a while.)
Rules of Thumb
• A good rule of thumb is to ask and share a little less rather than a little more. If the
other person is open to sharing more, then he or she will.
• Do not push people too hard or too quickly.
• We can never know for sure what is okay and what is taboo for any particular person.
• Just because an experience is one way for you, does not mean that the experience is
the same way for others.
• You don’t have to understand why someone feels a particular way necessarily, but you
do need to respect that it is his or her feeling to have.
8. Research on EQ and Versatility
The other key principle from the SOCIAL STYLE model is Versatility. Versatility is a
measure of a person’s interpersonal effectiveness. Like Emotional Intelligence, Versatility
has several sub-components: image, presentation, competence and feedback.
Versatility complements EQ in important ways. The Versatility model focuses on aspects
of Emotional Intelligence that are most relevant to the workplace.
Researchers at Colorado State University have just completed a study that compared
Versatility to two separate measures of EQ, and they found a significant relationship
between Versatility and EQ.
Thus the correlations Colorado State University found between Versatility and EQ are
extremely high, showing a very close connection between these two measures.
The main take away from this research is that by working on Versatility and an
awareness of Style and how different people respond to behavior, you can also increase
your EQ. The research shows that '